How to Work with Angels to Overcome a Love Addiction

Angel Healing and Recovery for a Romance Addiction

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Are you addicted to love? If you feel desperate without the high of a romantic thrill regularly, you're dealing with a love addiction. Angels are messengers of love who can empower you to overcome an addiction to romance by connecting you with the source of all love: God. Here's how to work with angels to overcome a love addiction and find healing for your romantic relationships:

In love addiction, your brain craves the chemicals that are released when you experience romantic feelings.

Chemicals such as dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin flood into your brain’s reward center whenever you feel a rush of romantic attraction. God designed those chemicals to motivate you to pay enough attention to a potential mate after first meeting to form the deep emotional bonds that lead to healthy relationships. But instead of sticking with romantic partners long enough to develop intimacy, you give up on them as soon as feelings of romantic highs fade, searching for a fix of another new relationship to make you feel another rush of emotional intensity.

Finding “the one” – the fantasy man or woman who can be your perfect romantic partner and make you feel whole – becomes an obsession for you. But such a person simply doesn’t exist, so you’re constantly riding an emotional roller coaster of romantic highs and desperate lows. You’re afraid of being alone, yet never at peace in a relationship.

Your desire for love is a healthy, God-given desire meant to lead you to greater unity with him. But addiction to romance twists love into something it was never meant to be -- something that can never really fulfill you. In their book Divine Intervention II: A Guide to Twin Flames, Soul Mates, and Kindred Spirits, Sandye M.

Roberts and Arthur L. Jones, III write: "… both addiction and love have in common a profound spiritual yearning: the desire to transcend the self, to experience powerful states of bliss and ecstasy, and to merge with something greater than oneself. … the new dimensions that seem to be accessible within the realm of addiction quickly turn out to be wisps of smoke: mirrors and illusion."

Ask Your Guardian Angel to Be Your Accountability Partner

The angel who is closest to you – the guardian angel God has assigned to care especially for you throughout your earthly lifetime – is a valuable resource to call on when you’re starting the healing process. As your constant companion, your guardian angel knows your secret fantasies and sees how those fantasies affect your decisions every day. Spend some time in prayer or meditation with your guardian angel, asking him or her to show you how your romantic fantasies are affecting how you spend your time, money, and energy.

Now comes the hard part: Take a complete romantic break. Do this for at least one month, since it takes at least 21 days to develop a new habit, and your need time to invest in your recovery.  Immediately stop pursuing romance with anyone in any way: no dates, flirting, browsing online singles sites, etc.

Make space in your life to get sober by stopping your romantic fantasies and focusing your attention on the attitudes that are fueling those fantasies in your mind. Ask your angel to reveal those attitudes to you -- perhaps low self-esteem, anxiety, or hurt from a betrayal are contributing to your obsessive romantic fantasies. Your guardian angel will guide you to the specific issues that you need to focus on during your recovery process.

Ask Archangel Chamuel to Remove Unhealthy Attachments from Your Life

Call on Archangel Chamuel, the angel of peaceful relationships, to empower you to break free from any romantic attachments that don't serve your best interest. Ask Chamuel to cut the spiritual cords that are tying you to exes who didn't treat you with love and respect. Chamuel can also help you heal emotionally from the memories of previous romantic relationships that weren't right for you.

Chamuel “can facilitate the dissipation of the ego, and dissolve feelings of greed, vanity, envy, and lust," write Samantha Stevens and Donna Lypchuk in their book The Seven Rays: A Universal Guide to the Archangels. "He can also save us from unhealthy attachments to people and things that we feel belong to us. … He is the angel of kindness, tenderness, and also human intimacy.”

Shift Your Focus from Unattainable Love to Love You Already Have

Instead of looking for romantic love that always seems just out of reach, notice the love that you already have, no matter what: God's love. Your guardian angel can help you experience that true love, so you can discover that you are loved completely and unconditionally by God, no matter how you may or may not feel loved by a human romantic partner.

Take some of the time you had previously devoted to pursuing romance and spend it now on prayer or meditation. Ask God to send one of his angelic messengers to deliver a tangible message of love to you, so you can feel the joy of God's love in your life.

In her book Angelic Healing: Working with Your Angel to Heal Your Life, Eileen Elias Freeman describes an angel visiting her and filling her soul with pure love during the visitation: “I feel that the angel just saturated me with love, not like any love I’ve ever known or that we really can know fully on earth. The love was indescribable, but I knew it was love, love of everything, unconditional, unquestioning, all-inclusive. It taught me that love is not only eternal but infinite. It made me realize that love is the purpose and end of everything. Love is its own answer.” She later adds of the encounter: “The angel was so totally filled with love from the Love that is the Source of all things that it seemed to me that it actually ‘was’ what it ‘did’. Action, energy, being, doing – these all meant the same thing.”

Ask Archangel Raphael to Heal Your Brain

Archangel Raphael can help your brain rebuild its neural pathways, dismantling the old wiring of love addiction and constructing healthy new circuits.

As God's top healing angel, Raphael is an expert on clearing away unhealthy energy and sending in healthy energy to the body, mind, and spirit together. "Much of Raphael's angelic healing involves him clearing away toxic energies hat are causing the illness" writes Doreen Virtue in her book The Healing Miracles of Archangel Raphael. "Just like physical toxins, energetic toxins lead to physical maladies."

Pray for Raphael's help, and he will send his healing energy into your brain while you train it to think about love in healthy ways during the recovery process. Eventually, you'll be ready to enjoy the true love you deserve -- with peace and intimacy, as God designed it to be.