Aries and Virgo Love Compatibility

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Aries and Virgo are an odd couple, but if they laugh at these differences, could overcome them. The eager Aries might stun the reserved Virgo at first with their upfront, at times unsubtle ways. Some born under the sign of the Virgin have reservations with dating and might like an old-fashioned courtship, with incremental moves.

Virgo is particular, and in some ways hard to get to know well. They will judge a lover by their actions, not their image. Aries' fervor makes them like a Bull in a China shop since Virgo is one of the most sensitive (physically) signs. Many Virgos are high strung and private, and Aries can feel like too much, too soon.

These two may work as friends, but their natures are at odds in a way that leads quickly to trouble.  Aries is restless and throws caution to the wind, while Virgo is a top worrier of the Zodiac.  

Aries in love is pushy, strong-willed and short on patience.  If these traits have free reign, Virgo can become the target of both good natured teasing and more provocative tricksterism.  

Virgo likes to think things through and will prefer the night be planned out in advance.  They'll want to set a time to come home and be wary of letting Aries in for a nightcap.  Less is more for Virgo in love, which paradoxically, can make Aries up for the challenge!  

Restless and Reserved

Virgo may seem like a mysterious, self-contained loner that is hard to attain. But cardinal Aries loves to dash off for a spontaneous adventure, setting alarms off for Virgo about the details—where will we stay, how much will this cost, etc. The Aries flames are smothered in all the Virgoan fretting, analyzing and cautious planning.

Virgo sees Aries as reckless and missing crucial steps, and Aries will feel ensnared in a web of criticism. This goes around in a vicious cycle until Aries storms out the door, not looking back. Unless there are other compatible planets, this is a mismatch that makes each feel insecure.

Keep in mind that Virgo needs a certain amount of stability, and for things to unfold over time. The sensual nature of Virgo is revealed in stages, and it takes patience to lure it out. Virgo warms up to someone who is there, day in and day out.

Aries likes living at the edge of experience, taking risks, throwing caution to the wind. The restless Aries might even see disinterest in Virgo, or make a snap judgment that they're all work, no play. Virgo simply needs particular conditions to feel at ease, while Aries thrives in new situations where there's the tension of new challenges. These two ships should pass in the night and look for more hospitable harbors.

Aries and Virgo Upside:  One initiates and other supports, Aries motivates Virgo to put self first, Virgo shows Aries how to attach dreams to altruism, bold creative projects for charity, flashes of originality and finishing touches.

Aries and Virgo Downside: Overconfidence meets Modest-to-a-Fault, dominant and submissive, service-to-self vs. service-to-others, different ways of coming to decision, self-focused vs. other-focused, instinctual knowing and analytical.

This match brings together Cardinal Fire  (Aries ) and Mutable Earth (Virgo).

Aries and Virgo Love Story

Reader Kaihla writes: "I have been with my Aries man for 5 years now. We have 2 kids and are still young. Which does not work in our favor. We do have our good times but he is so insensitive, bossy, disrespectful, hot-headed. What angers me the most is the reckless outlook he has with life. We are engaged but I am having serious doubts, I don't think we are compatible enough for a marriage! Aries and Virgos will only work if there is compromise and communication."