Be Your Own Friend

Be Your Own Friend!. David Jakle / Image Source / Getty Images

Actor friend, you deserve a lot of credit for pursuing your passion as an artist.  It is my hope that you will think of my page here on the network as if it were an encouraging friend of yours; a friend who reminds you of how talented you are, and a friend who reminds you to never give up on the pursuit of your dream.  As I have experienced - thanks to my family and wonderful friends, - even just a little bit of encouragement can prove to be helpful in an industry that is extremely difficult!


Being encouraged and having someone nearby who consistently encourages and supports you can be a tremendous help!  But ultimately it is important to recognize that you have the power to be your own friend who encourages yourself and treats you like you'd treat a friend -with kindness and patience.  (Reciting affirmations to yourself is one way to remind yourself to be your own friend.  Here are 5 of them for you to start with!) 

Being your own friend involves, of course, being good to yourself, seeing yourself in a positive light, and viewing yourself as being successful.  Often however, we overlook our own accomplishments because we are constantly trying to do more.    

I spoke with a new friend recently who talked about his career and his life.  While listening to him, his life seemed to be very interesting and exciting!  Yet, he described his life as being rather “routine and boring,” and that he will be much more excited once he moves farther along in his career.

 He talked about his life in a somewhat negative manner; however if he stopped and acknowledged how far he has already come, he would see that he has everything going for him right now!

My new friend was neither acknowledging his achievements nor giving himself credit for pursuing a current passion of his.

  Instead of appreciating his current successes and how far he’s come in an interesting career, he spoke of where he is planning on going and what he hopes to be doing in the future.    Many of us do this. 

While setting goals and planning for the future is very important, living in the present is essential too.  I believe that it is important to aim to find a balance between acknowledging your current successes while at the same time planning to always keep moving forward and improving as an actor and as a person.   

Patience, Trust and Hard Work  

As is likely obvious to you now, finding success as an actor will require a lot of hard work.  But if you are working on your career every single day, even just by doing one thing, you are making it happen!  Give yourself credit for that!  Be your own friend

Be patient with yourself and trust in the choices that you have made in your life and in your career.  If you feel that you are doing what is right for you, it’s probably safe to say that you’re on the right path.

That being said, it is understandable that it’s not always easy to be patient and simply ‘trust’ that everything will work out.   We want to see results of our hard work, right?!


Personally (and admittedly,) I'm not always patient with myself.  I want to do a million things all at once, and sometimes I get frustrated when I can't do it all or see results in all of these areas at the same time. While trying to juggle acting, singing, writing, learning guitar, building my YouTube channel and, oh yeah, life, I overwhelm myself at times.   

However through wanting to accomplish goals in numerous areas, I’ve learned that focusing on one thing at a time has proven to be much more effective than creating chaos by attempting to do too many things at once and frustrating myself.  (Check out a fantastic article written by Life Coach Susie Moore on MSN about creating success in all areas of your life by focusing on specific areas, one at a time.)   

I have learned that by focusing my energy on one area at a time, I accomplish much more and am able to feel happy about the results I see!

  In turn, I have stopped “beating myself up” for feeling like I was not doing enough and have embraced a kinder attitude toward myself and being a better friend to myself.  I now trust (and proudly acknowledge) that I can accomplish what I set my mind to, and so can you! 

Acknowledge Your Efforts and Progress

Be good to yourself and treat yourself in the same way that you would treat a friend.  Celebrate your current successes and trust that you’ll see more success by doing the best that you can do every day.  Remember that - regardless of what point you are at in your acting career - simply by pursuing your passion you’re well on the way to fulfilling all of your dreams! 

Keep up the great work, and give yourself a pat on the back!