Cancer With Virgo: Their Love Compatibility

Both Seek the Stability of Commitment

A couple relaxes in a hammock.
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Cancer and Virgo start out on the right foot, since both are reserved, and neither tries to force love on the other. Their courting may look downright old-fashioned to more restless types, with polite respect shown on both sides.

Things get messed up if they try to match the popular pace of hooking up. They could act like it's okay to be "friends with benefits," but both seek the stability of commitment, though they may fear it, too.

Sensitive Types

They are so sensitive, it's easy for each to feel they're in over their heads. They react by being aloof and retreating. The other can interpret this as disinterest. A remedy is to take things slowly, allowing enough time to process what's happening.

Cancers in love are empathetic, comfort-loving, and at times, insecure.

Virgos in love are thoughtful and display etiquette and high standards.

Hopefully Devoted

Cancer appreciates how Virgo takes note of personal tastes and tries to come up with well-chosen date ideas. Virgo feels needed right away, seeing how much Cancer could use help in practical matters. Virgo might try to organize Cancer from the get-go, which is a definite sign of interest. Cancer will appreciate being the center of this kind of attention, unless it goes too far. Virgo would do well to research the best way to date a Cancer in order to feel prepared and proceed effectively.

This mating brings two worriers together, but as a team, they can cover all the bases. Each will be comforted by all the planning that goes into dates, and later, the pre-planning of everything helps minimize the shared fear of the unknown.

A key word is security, since once they've got it, Cancer and Virgo can truly be themselves.

If they don't have it, both can be aloof basket cases. If they're successful at creating a foundation of trust, the relationship deepens and more layers are revealed. Cancer and Virgo appreciate the routine of life, with the promise of lots of time to work out the kinks and grow closer.

Touchy-Feely

Virgo is a sensor-thinker and Cancer is a feeler, and sometimes this can lead to misunderstandings. Without realizing it, Virgo can offend Cancer by talking about things in an unemotional way. On the flip side, Virgo may find the lunar moodiness a bit jarring to their love of order. This difference can turn into a gift when, through osmosis, Cancer gains much-needed perspective, and Virgo grows aware of emotional nuances.

In relationships, the Cancer-Virgo match can be loving, sensual, and devoted. Cancer values the loyalty that Virgo offers, and tries hard to show it through day-to-day nurturing. Virgo starts to feel secure in the caring atmosphere that's created between them. Intimacy can be yet another chance to please each other, with Virgo's masterful attention to detail and Cancer's languid sensuality. This pairing is marriage material, and once the commitment is made, it will likely be for life.

Upside: Mutual devotion, heightened awareness of needs, ability to reassure the other, mutual love of planning things like travel, shared love of the familiarity of routine, shared enjoyment of nurturing children and animal friends.

Downside: Stress hits digestion for both, moods affect emotions, insecurity can be paralyzing, hypochondria, getting stuck in habits of criticism. Take care when you spot:

Element and Quality

Cardinal Water (Cancer) and Mutable (adaptable) Earth (process-oriented) (Virgo)

Cancer and Virgo Love Story

I am a Virgo. My ex was a Cancer. We were both reserved so it was a bit of a slow start. I did feel needed and I did try to help my ex overcome her low self-esteem. She was worried about everything. I was the one that tried to find solutions, but she never helped and never appreciated what I did. We did argue a lot about the same things over and over. She preferred to avoid discussing things rather than resolve issues, so we were stuck in the same discussions. However, even after being engaged, my Cancer left. All in all, it lasted two years and basically ended because Cancer wasn't ready for commitment after all.