These 10 Motherhood Quotes Say 'Don't Think Motherhood Is Easy!'

Why Motherhood Is Not a Walk in the Park

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If you are on the threshold of motherhood, or considering having a baby, you have probably already been inundated with parenting advice from everyone, including your beautician to your gardener. Everyone will tell you about sleepless nights, diaper disasters, and incontinence. You'd think you are mad to even considering having a baby, when it is far easier to adopt a dog. At least you won't have to save big bucks for college education.

So, why get into the business of baby making at all?

What Makes Motherhood Special?

Well, here's the deal. While you may have a ton of reasons why kids are not for you, if you think about it, having a child is a part of growing up. Yes, adults need to grow up too. Wisdom does not always comes with age, it comes with rock-hard experience. And parenting is one way to gain that kind of wisdom. Being a mother, a full-time caregiver, and a provider prepares you for life. 

But let me not lecture you on the good reasons to have a child. Each couple has to make a choice on their own, and each one has a reason compelling enough to make that choice. Let's rather talk about motherhood, and facts you'd wish you had known before stepping into this shark-infested waters. 

Here are 7 facts about motherhood you'd wish you had known earlier:

1. Motherhood Is a Roller-Coaster Ride, Full of Dizziness, Heart in Your Mouth.

It's unlike any feeling you have ever had before.

Nothing can prepare you for motherhood. Not even your own mother can train you to be a better mom. Each mother goes through her own set of personal experiences. Each mother learns the rope while on the job, never before. But you can prepare for motherhood, by finding out what's in store. 

2. There's No Going Back.

When I had my first baby, the first thing that hit me like a splash of cold water was that motherhood was an irreversible decision.

Once you have the baby, there's no escaping. It's a done deal. Whether you like it or not, whether you are prepared for this phase of life or not, whether you enjoy motherhood or not, you are going to be a mother for the rest of your life. Period.

3. Your Chanel Bags Will Make Way for Huge Diaper Bags.

Forget chic. Forget haute couture. It's time to make way for simple and smart. The days of trendy totes are over. Now, your bag has to accommodate for two -- you and the baby. I have seen moms who have poop stains, mushy food spills all over their clothes, but they smile their problems away. Because they had bargained for this change.

4. Your Body Will Just Not Listen to You.

Unless you are Kim Kardashian, don't expect your body to go zip back into shape that you had before the baby. Some women who sweat it out in the first few months after childbirth recover most of their toned self. But if you let go of yourself in the first year after childbirth, you may as well kiss your sexy curves goodbye.

5. A Trip to the Salon Feels Like a Blissful Holiday.

On that rare occasion, when you can escape from being a full-time mother, you'd want to head straight to the salon. There is no joy greater than getting a soothing massage or a pampering pedicure at such times.

6. From This Point on, You Learn to Live With a Worried Look on Your Face.

Motherhood never gets easy. When your child is young, you begin to worry about her health, safety and progress. That worry never leaves you. Even as a mother of a teenager or a grown up kid, you worry about her health, safety and progress. So, wear that frown with pride; it's your badge of honor.

7. You Always Feel That You Have Never Done a Good Job of Parenting.

Mothers feel guilty all the time. They are wracked with guilt if they allowed themselves some 'me time', or a little bit of indulgence. When you see other moms, you doubt your own abilities to be a good mother. You may feel that your friend or sister is a better mom than you are. You'd wish you knew how to cope with situations. No mother feels that she has done enough for her child.

Guilt becomes a constant companion, and you are never going to get away from this feeling.

Despite the Madness, Motherhood Can Bring You the Greatest Joys of Life

So you now know the perils of motherhood. Yet, year after year, millions of mothers happily give birth to a wailing, demanding, crying infant, which promises to make their life a living hell for at least the next two years. Why is that? Why would anyone sign up for a job that has no perks but only duties?

The joy of motherhood can only be experienced. While being a full-time mother is no picnic, motherhood is unlimited bliss. The sight of the tiny infant you just created inside your body can give you a feeling of bliss. The happiness you get when you see your little baby take the first few steps can take away all the pains. The joy of watching your child grow -- from a little child to a smart and wonderful human being -- it makes the roller coaster ride worthwhile. 

Enjoy these 10 quotes about motherhood in the company of other mothers who have gone through a similar phase of parenting. Share your thoughts, and experiences with other mothers and gain insights on how to become a better mother. 

  • Honore de Balzac
    The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.
     
  • Zora Neale Hurston
    Mama exhorted her children at every opportunity to 'jump at de sun.' We might not land on the sun, but at least we would get off the ground.
     
  • Tenneva Jordan
    A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.
     
  • Sophia Loren
    When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.
     
  • Irish Proverb
    A man loves his sweetheart the most, his wife the best, but his mother the longest.
     
  • Rebecca West
    Motherhood is the strangest thing; it can be like being one's own Trojan horse.
     
  • Emily James Putnam
    Maternity is on the face of it an unsociable experience. The selfishness that a woman has learned to stifle or to dissemble where she alone is concerned, blooms freely and unashamed on behalf of her offspring.
     
  • Barbara Ehrenreich
    Take motherhood: nobody ever thought of putting it on a moral pedestal until some brash feminists pointed out, about a century ago, that the pay is lousy and the career ladder nonexistent.
     
  • Emma Goldman
    Morality and its victim, the mother – what a terrible picture! Is there indeed anything more terrible, more criminal, than our glorified sacred function of motherhood?
     
  • Andrea Dworkin
    The fact that we are all trained to be mothers from infancy on means that we are all trained to devote our lives to men, whether they are our sons or not; that we are all trained to force other women to exemplify the lack of qualities which characterizes the cultural construct of femininity.