10 Ways to Express Regret Without Losing Face

Use Apology Quotes to Add Weight to Your Apology

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I was lending a patient ear to my best friend, who was going through a bad breakup. She had found out that her boyfriend was cheating on her. Heartbroken as she was, all she needed was an apology from her boyfriend. "At least he could have told me that he didn't love me!," she cried. "And all I'm asking is for him to say sorry to me. Is it so difficult for him to say sorry?" she asked me between bouts of tears.

How Men and Women Feel About Apologising for a Wrong Doing

Women need to hear a sincere word of apology when they feel they have been hurt by someone special. For women, a touching apology that comes from the heart can set straight many broken cords. It is important for women that men apologise with a sincerity, and not just to escape from a sticky situation.

On the other hand, most men often find it difficult to apologise, because they view an apology as accepting defeat. It punctures their ego, and makes them feel less powerful. As Steve Martin puts it, "An apology? Bah! Disgusting! Cowardly! Beneath the dignity of any gentleman, however wrong he might be."

Apologies Can Help Heal Broken Relationships

Apologies, if communicated well, can fix a broken heart. When you are in a relationship, you may inadvertently hurt your beloved with your thoughtless words or deeds. Instead of walking on eggshells, come clean with your feelings, and express your regret.

Communicate with your partner. Surely you did not intend to hurt her.

Sometimes, mere words are not enough to communicate regret. You need to employ subtle, loving gestures to express your feelings. How about a candlelight dinner at a romantic restaurant? You are right, apologies don't come cheap.

How to Make Your Apologies Work

If your partner is still pouting, you probably have to work harder on the apology.

This is not the time to act offended, and return the favor. It is best to eat the humble pie, be patient, and seek pardon. Try to make her smile by joking about yourself, or acting like a buffoon. If she manages to break into a smile, she will soften up and accept your apology.

Tryon Edwards
Right actions in the future are the best apologies for bad actions in the past.

Benjamin Disraeli
Apologies only account for that which they do not alter.

Lao Tzu
When armies are mobilized and issues joined, the man who is sorry over the fact will always win.

G. K. Chesterton
A stiff apology is a second insult. The injured party does not want to be compensated because he has been wronged; he wants to be healed because he has been hurt.

Walt Whitman
It takes a great deal of character strength to apologize quickly out of one's heart rather than out of pity. A person must possess himself and have a deep sense of security in fundamental principles and values in order to genuinely apologize.

Kimberly Johnson
Never ruin an apology with an excuse.

George Allen
I rise today to offer a formal and heartfelt apology to all the victims of lynching in our history, and for the failure of the United States Senate to take action when action was most needed.

Benjamin Disraeli
Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so you apologize for truth.

Samuel Butler
An apology for the devil: it must be remembered that we have heard one side of the case. God has written all the books.

Muhammad Ali
If you even dream of beating me you'd better wake up and apologize.

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