How to Become More Empathetic

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Reach out and show someone you care. Michael M Schwab / Getty Images

If you would like to become more empathetic here are a few suggestions to get you started:

1. Cultivate Compassion

In order to begin to develop empathic ability, it is essential to care how someone feels. When we have compassion, we attune to the needs and feelings of the person we want to help. When we resist the energies, need and feelings of another, it is pretty hard to really open your self to them enough to know what is going on.

2. Put Yourself In Someone Else's Shoes

One for the best ways to develop compassion is to put your self in their shoes. What would it feel like to be them.. to have had their experiences, to live their lifestyle, etc. There is a practice of entrainment which can help you come into a simpatico with them. When you are working directly with a person, breathe with them.. at the same rate. imagine you can feel what they feel. It works the best if you can be in some form of physical contact with them, like holding their hand, or placing your hand on their heart chakra. Imagine your awareness sinks into their body. Notice what you see in your mind's eye, feel physically, and hear. Bring all of your senses to bear.

3. Develop Your Heart Chakra

When our heart chakra is truly open, we have the experience of the woven-ness of reality. We are not as separate as we seem. When another person is in pain, we have the knowledge of their need, and may respond to it appropriately.

Breathe in and out of your heart chakra. imagine it opening like a lovely flower. Feel all the love that has ever been given to you, and feel and see all those who have ever loved. Be sure to include animals, who are great teachers of unconditional love. Allow your heart to grow several sizes. Some gemstones that are helpful for opening the heart chakra are rose quartz, malachite, emerald and ruby.

4. Develop Your Third Eye Chakra

When the third eye chakra is open, we can experience strong clairvoyance. Through it, we can perceive more clearly what is going on in the minds and hearts of those around us. When the third eye is closed, we tend to be more mental in our approach, and spend way too much time trying to figure things out instead of just "knowing." To open the third eye, sit quietly focusing on the third eye. While you attention is there, chant the mantra, "aum." envision light filling your skull, and emanating out of your third eye. After a time, if you like, you may ask a question, and allow a vision that represents the answer to appear in your mind.

When you are finished meditating on the third eye, be sure to spend a little time focusing on your root chakra to help ground your energy.

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Sylvia Brallier is the Director of the Tantric Shamanism Institute and the author of the book, Dancing in the Eye of Transformation. She has been teaching healing and tantric shamanism workshops nationally and internationally for over twenty years. Her work is based on her own experiences with both ancient and new techniques for the evolution of consciousness.

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