15 Marriage Sayings That Can Save You From Getting Wedding Jitters

Marriage Sayings Bring Alive Your Marriage Vows

Getting Cold Feet Before Wedding
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Cold Feet Before Marriage? Is That a Sign From Heaven?

If you ask anybody who has been married, they will assure you that getting cold feet before marriage is just natural. It is your 'fight or flight' response getting activated before you take on a huge step in your life. Statistically in the US alone, more than 15% of weddings are cancelled because the bride walked out of the wedding. Why does that happen?

What makes people run away from commitment? Why does marriage seem like you are jumping from a cliff?

Why Some Marriages Last While Others Don't

While I don't claim to be a marriage counsellor or an expert in the field of relationships, I can speak from my personal experience and that of my friends and family members. Having been married for over 15 years, I can give you the insider's view on what works in marriages and what doesn't.

When I decided to get married, the only consistent advice I got from all other married couples is that "it takes two to tango." Marriage is all about fusing two personalities into one. So, there is a lot of give and take, a lot of accommodation and acceptance, and a quite a lot of intimacy and space that couples need to give each other.

Does Marriage Signal the End of Personal Freedom and Individuality?

On the contrary, marriage allows room for personal growth and at the same time enables couples to grow together.

Many couples develop cold feet just a few days before marriage. The thought of being shackled to one person for the rest of your life may cause many to have jittery nerves. What if you made a bad choice? What if marriage stifles your personality? What if you grow apart?

While these are genuine and reasonable concerns, these should not be factors deterring you from tying the knot.

Predicting the fate of your marriage is as good as predicting the outcome of a coin toss. And since all factors are not in your control, it is impossible to predict how your marriage will turn out. The only factors you need to consider are: a) Do you love each other? and b) Do you trust each other?

All other factors are prone to changes. Even if you believe that money, physical attraction, and other factors are important for a good marriage, you must know that these factors will change over a period of time.

Talk to Older Married Couples and Learn From their Successes and Mistakes

If you have older family members who are still married, talk to them and find out what made their marriage work. You will be amazed to find a host of surprising nuggets of wisdom that your elders can share with you. Remember that your grandparents and parents have seen the best and worst during their marriage; they are equipped to advice you on how to make your marriage a success.

Marriage Sayings That Teach You How to Make Your Marriage Work

So if you have decided to take the plunge, here are 10 marriage sayings that tell you how to make marriages work. These are time-honoured sayings passed on from grandmothers to granddaughters.

 Learn how to make your marriage work with these sayings.

Quote #1: Dave Meurer
A great marriage is not when the “perfect couple” comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.

Quote #2: Erma Bombeck
Marriage has no guarantees. If that’s what you’re looking for, go live with a car battery. 

Quote #3: Linda Brady
We recognize a soulmate by the supreme level of comfort and security we feel with that person. That doesn't mean that there aren't issues that remain to be ironed out. Rather, it means we know intuitively that we can resolve issues with our soul mate without losing his or her love and respect.

Quote #4: Elizabeth Gilbert
People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soulmate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

Quote #5: Leo Tolstoy
He felt now that he was not simply close to her, but that he did not know where he ended and she began.

Quote #6: Albert Einstein
Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.

Quote #7: Friedrich Nietzsche
It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.

Quote #8: Mignon McLaughlin
A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.

Quote #9: Samuel Butler
In matrimony, to hesitate is sometimes to be saved.

Quote #10: Benjamin Franklin
Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, and half shut afterwards.

Quote #11: Amy Grant
The more you invest in a marriage, the more valuable it becomes.

Quote #12: Leo Tolstoy
What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.

Quote #13: Rainer Maria Rilke
A good marriage is that in which each appoints the other guardian of his solitude.

Quote #14: Peter De Vries
The bonds of matrimony are like any other bonds - they mature slowly.

Quote #15: Socrates
As to marriage or celibacy, let a man take which course he will, he will be sure to repent.

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