Missing a Loved One? These Quotes From Poems Add the Healing Touch

When Pangs of Separation Become Unbearable, Read These Quotes

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It could be a love song, a poem, or a soulful tune. Or it could simply be the golden rays of the setting sun. Pangs of yearning will be felt in every heart that has loved. Have you been reminded of your lover, an ex-boyfriend, or a woman of your dreams, when you observed something magical and beautiful?

Is it weird to miss someone? Love, in its various complexities and avatars, also comes with the baggage of yearning.

This sweet and sour pangs can leave you with frustration, impatience, and sadness, which can wreak havoc in your life. Some lovers claim that they miss their beloved every moment they are not together. Really? Is that possible? Or is it just a false illusion of early stages of love?

Missing someone is natural, especially if you have been in an intimate relationship with someone. The fact that you miss a loved one only makes you human. However, if you allow your pining heart to take control of your life, nothing will come of it. At best, you will be left brokenhearted; at worst you may become an alcoholic or run yourself down to destruction.

The Telltale Signs of Missing Someone

Much as you may want to deny the fact that you are missing someone, you will find the obvious symptoms. Here are some that are dead giveaways:

1) Sad songs make you cry. Romantic songs make you cry louder.

It is not that you don’t love songs, but a pining heart can take it no more.

The melody rips your heart, and the lyrics feel like a thousand daggers stabbing at you. Suddenly, you discover that you are a big fan of Amy Winehouse’s There is No Greater Love.

2) You would like to crawl back into your cave.

Bright lights, loud music, and laughter are your enemies. You prefer to stay away from every sort of company.

You find yourself alone, even in a crowd. There are days when you just want to watch the sun set in the horizon, let the breeze ruffle your hair, and gaze at the ripples caused by raindrops.

3) You either love to eat, or hate to eat.

Bulimia and anorexia are fairly common among those who are missing their lover. Food takes on an entirely new meaning, and it does not seem to satisfy your heart’s desire. Alcohol is the new coffee in your lexicon, and it seems to be the only answer to life’s greatest problems.

4) You have turned into a workaholic and number crunching has become your favorite pastime.

Those who feel the burden of a pining heart, escape by diving into hard work. Working extra hard may be the only way to distract your thoughts from the deep sense of void you feel inside. Also, facts and figures are easier to deal with, than the probing questions of people.

5) You can’t help checking your emails, text messages and status updates multiple times in a day.

When you are missing someone dearly, you want to hear from them. You want to hear their voice, read their emails, or text message one last time. You seek a closure for unrequited love, or you wish to say a proper goodbye to the person you loved.

If you are experiencing any or all of these symptoms of missing someone, it’s time to let the healing process begin. Here are 4 ways to help heal that hurting heart.

1) Communicate Your Feelings.

Bottling up your angst is the surest way to get yourself in a tangle of woes. When you suffer the pain of separation, you’d want to blame your object of affection for causing you much distress. Separation leads to anxiety, insecurity, and anger. Sometimes, this angst also leads to jealousy and mistrust. Do you really want to go through all this, when you can simply communicate your feelings?

2) Deal With the Separation With a Mature Mind.

This is easier said than done. But hurting yourself in the process of missing someone is no fun. If you are counting days until the next reunion, do something worthwhile and productive.

Hit the gym. Learn a skill. Catch up with friends. Catch up with your reading list. Build a house. The opportunities are endless. You just need to get out of bed and spring into action.

3) Write a Letter to Yourself.

Trust me, it helps. Address an email to yourself and pour out your feelings. Don’t restrain your thoughts. Once you have poured out the venom, hit send. Now, sleep over it. Next day, read your email. You will find most of your feelings fairly irrational. Keep this as a memoir of your dark days. In the years to come, these letters will prove to be a great source for introspective learning.

4) Say “I Miss You” With Grace

You don’t lose face when you express feelings honestly. But instead of sounding like a whining, clingy friend, or a heartbroken lover, express your thoughts with graceful words. These poem extracts convey your melancholy feelings, while keeping your dignity intact. Poetry touches you in ways that ordinary words cannot. When you miss your beloved, share these quotes from sad poems and cherish the sweet-sour hours of separation.

Quote #1:

Christina Rossetti: I Loved You First: But Afterwards Your Love

I loved you first: but afterwards your love

Outsoaring mine, sang such a loftier song

As drowned the friendly cooings of my dove.

Which owes the other most? my love was long,

And yours one moment seemed to wax more strong;

 

Quote #2:

Angela Morgan: Choice

I'd rather have the thought of you

To hold against my heart,

My spirit to be taught of you

With west winds blowing,

Than all the warm caresses

Of another love's bestowing,

Or all the glories of the world

In which you had no part.

 

Quote #3:

Sara Teasdale: May

Beneath the apple blossoms

I go a wintry way,

For love that smiled in April

Is false to me in May.

 

Quote #4:

Rainer Maria Rilke: In Love Song

And yet everything which touches us, you and me, takes us together like a single bow, drawing out from two strings but one voice. On which instrument are we strung? And which violinist holds us in the hand? O sweetest of songs.

 

Quote #5:

Emily Dickinson: Heart! We Will Forget Him!

Heart! We will forget him!

You an I, tonight!

You may forget the warmth he gave,

I will forget the light.

 

Quote #6:

Pablo Neruda: The Saddest Poem

I can write the saddest poem of all tonight.

Write, for instance: "The night is full of stars,

and the stars, blue, shiver in the distance."

The night wind whirls in the sky and sings.

I can write the saddest poem of all tonight.

I loved her, and sometimes she loved me too.

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