What to Do When Love Hurts: Quotes to Soothe the Pain

When Your Dearest Breaks Your Heart

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It is ironic that the ones you love deeply are also the ones who you can hurt or who can hurt you the most. The truth is that when you are in love, be prepared to get hurt. When you love someone, you trust them and share your vulnerabilities and secrets. These can be turned against you when the relationship sours. How will you pick up the shreds, when your lover breaks your heart?

At such times, love hurts. The abrasions of love have inspired many a great writer. From Shakespeare to Jane Austen, many writers have at some time or the other dwelt upon the anguish called love. The following quotes bring out the heartache caused by love.

Yes, love does hurt. But that does not mean that you should withdraw into a shell. Find the courage to fight for your dignity and survival. Bandage your broken spirit with these 'love hurts' quotes. The best thing to do when you fall down is to dust yourself and get up once again. Shrug off that feeling of despondency, and chin up. As Mahatma Gandhi wisely said, "Nobody can hurt you without your permission."

Jane Austen

"One does not love a place the less for having suffered in it unless it has all been suffering, nothing but suffering."

Carroll Bryant

"The shattering of a heart when being broken is the loudest quiet ever."


"If love is so important to have that one doesn't want to lose it, why is it when we find true love we often don't notice it?"

Harry Crews

"There is something beautiful about all scars of whatever nature. A scar means the hurt is over; the wound is closed and healed, done with."

Oscar Wilde

"When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving oneself, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance."

Philip Larkin

"What will survive of us is love."

Daphne Rae, "Love Until It Hurts"

"I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love."


"We are more often frightened than hurt, and we suffer more from imagination than from reality."

Diane Arbus

"Love involves a peculiar unfathomable combination of understanding and misunderstanding."

E. Y. Harburg

"Oh, innocent victims of Cupid,

Remember this terse little verse;

To let a fool kiss you is stupid,

To let a kiss fool you is worse."

Joan Lunden

"Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache, and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and the lightness in your life."


"It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone."

Bill Clayton

"The folks you help won't remember it and the folks you hurt won't ever forget it."

William Shakespeare

"Love is a smoke made with the fume of sighs. "

Victor M. Garcia Jr.

"Love is like the truth, sometimes it prevails, sometimes it hurts."

William Somerset Maugham

"The love that lasts the longest is the love that is never returned."

Spanish proverb

"Where there is love, there is pain."

Oscar Wilde

"Those who are faithful know only the trivial side of love; it is the faithless who know love's tragedies."

Sir James M. Barrie

"If you have it [love], you don't need to have anything else, and if you don't have it, it doesn't matter much what else you have."

Toba Beta

"Love hurts when it changes us."

Francois de La Rouchefoucauld

"There is only one kind of love, but there are a thousand imitations."

William Shakespeare

"The courses of true love never did run smooth."

George Granville

"Of all pains, the greatest pain,

Is to love, and to love in vain."


"Why is it that we don't always recognize the moment love begins, but we always recognize the moment it ends?"

Marie E. Eschenbach

"We don't believe in rheumatism and true love until after the first attack."

Felice and Boudleaux Bryant

"Love hurts, Love scars,

Love wounds and marks

Any heart not tough or strong enough

To take a lot of pain...

Love is like a cloud, it holds a lot of rain...

Love is like a flame, it burns you when it's hot."