4 Reasons Every Christian Single Needs Accountability

Why an Accountibility Partner Is Vital to Spiritual Growth

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It doesn't matter if you're married or single, sharing your life with another person is difficult. Life seems so much simpler when we keep the details of our minds, hearts, dreams, and sin locked away in a vault. While this isn't good for anyone, it can be especially dangerous for singles who don't have a spouse to challenge them and who can keep their friendships at an arm's length so as to avoid anything too painful or emotional.

Seeking out at least one friend for the purpose of accountability is important. We need people in our lives who know us and love us and will be bold enough to shine a spotlight on the areas in our lives that need work. For what good is this season if we put everything on hold and don't use it to grow in our relationship with Christ?

There are many reasons for singles to seek out an accountability partner, but four stand out.

  1. Confession is biblical."If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9, NIV )
    "Make this your common practice: Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you can live together whole and healed. The prayer of a person living right with God is something powerful to be reckoned with…" (James 5:16, MSG)
    We are told in 1 John that Jesus forgives our sins when we confess them to him. But according to James, confession to other believers results in wholeness and healing.
    In The Message, it tells us to make confession a "common practice." Sharing our sins with another person isn't something most of us get too thrilled about. Finding someone we truly trust can be difficult. Even after we find someone, setting aside our pride and letting down our guard doesn't come naturally. We still have to work at it, to train ourselves, to practice it regularly. Accountability fosters honesty in our lives. It helps us to be more truthful with God, others, and ourselves.
    Maybe that's why people say that confession is good for the soul.
  1. Community is developed and strengthened.In a world of Facebook friends and Twitter followers, we live in a culture of shallow friendships. But just because we track someone's social media prayer requests does not mean that we are in true biblical community with them.
    Community reveals to us that we are not alone, and our struggles, as difficult as they may seem, are ones others have wrestled with too. We are enabled to walk alongside and learn from each other on our journeys of sanctification, and we are freed from the temptation of comparison or performance. When the load is heavy or seems unbearable, we are able to share the weight (Galatians 6:1-6).
  2. We are sharpened.Sometimes we get lazy. It happens. It's easier to slack off when there's no one around calling us out and reminding us to walk worthy of the calling we've received. (Ephesians 4:1)
    "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." (Proverbs 27:17, NIV)
    When we permit others to hold us accountable, to point out our blind spots, and to speak truth into our lives, we are allowing them to sharpen us, and in turn, we can do the same for them. Once sharpened, we are no longer dull and lethargic instruments, but useful ones.
  1. We are encouraged."Attaboy" and "good for you" are nice to hear, but they can be hollow and unsatisfying. We need people who will bear witness to our lives, celebrate the evidences of grace, and cheer us on when we are limping. Singles especially need to hear that someone is not only in their corner but also fighting fervently on their behalf in prayer. In a true accountability partnership, the rebuke and exhortation is always tempered with encouragement and love.

The lack of accountability for a Christian single is a matter of destruction. We cannot minimize the depth of our struggles with sin if we truly desire to be useful in God's kingdom. We need help seeing, confronting, and overcoming sin in our lives. The Holy Spirit reveals these things to us and empowers us to overcome them, but he uses our community to help us, remind us, strengthen us, and minister to us on our journey.

The Christian life was never meant to be lived in solitude.