Second Thoughts About Being a Christian

Do You Feel Mostly Like a Fool and Rarely Like a Follower of Christ?

Second Thoughts About Being a Christian
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If you're a Christian man, there will be times in your life when you will feel like a fool.

Those thoughts can make you feel ashamed or embarrassed, but you're not alone. A man who follows Christ sticks out in this world, and as the old saying goes, the nail that sticks out is usually pounded down.

People don't know what to do with you. Your values are so different that unbelieving coworkers and friends can't relate to you.

You make them feel uncomfortable, and they can't handle it.

Life in the Slow Lane

Has your boss ever given you that look, that exasperated, "What am I going to do with you?" expression? More often it's a look instead of a lecture, because he'd be on shaky ground if he berated you for doing the right thing.

Every year the workplace becomes more competitive, and as it does, ethics become more spongy. "Aggressive" becomes a code word for ruthless, "hardworking" and "loyal" mean you'll put the job ahead of your family, and the phrase "do whatever it takes" implies that you'll bypass your morals if it helps the company get ahead.

You see coworkers make unrealistic promises about your company's products or services to improve their sales. You see them pad their expense accounts. Some of them take advantage of every opportunity to slack off.

If you hold steadfastly to Christ's teachings, you probably watch less qualified employees get promoted ahead of you.

They drive nicer cars, live in larger houses, and get bigger bonuses. You watch others climbing the ladder and think, "This is the reward I get?" You feel like a fool.

That Other Office Game

Then there's that other workplace activity, sexual affairs outside of marriage. The opportunities are always there.

If you've ever looked at my bio page, you know I look more like Andy Rooney than George Clooney, yet several times during my career, married women at work let me know they were available. I wasn't misreading their signals and I didn't do anything to encourage them. I was shocked every time it happened.

Sometimes they'll approach you because you're kinder or more understanding than their husband. Sometimes it's just curiosity. But I also think some women see it as a challenge to try to seduce a Christian man.

For a few moments, your thoughts wander and you wonder what it would be like. Then just as quickly, all those years of Bible reading blur through your mind until they come to a screeching halt at the commandment, "You shall not commit adultery."

That night you go home fighting a mixture of emotions, from frustration to disillusionment to relief over choosing wisely. But somewhere in there too, you can't help feeling like a fool.

When the Greatest Felt Like a Fool

Perhaps the most poignant lesson about second thoughts is found in the seventh chapter of Luke, as John the Baptist languished in Herod's prison. John sent messengers to ask Jesus if he was the Messiah or if the people should expect someone else.

Jesus, recounting all his miracles, then told the messengers, "Blessed is the man who does not fall away on account of me." (Luke 7:23)

We see that Jesus did not criticize John for his second thoughts. In fact, after the messengers left, Jesus heaped praise upon John, concluding with: "I tell you, among those born of women there is no one greater than John, yet the one who is least in the kingdom of God is greater than he." (Luke 7:28)

You and I, as saved followers of Christ, belong to that kingdom of God. Jesus is talking about us. He knows about our frustrations and about our second thoughts. He knows about the lure of the world and Satan's cunning attacks on us. Yet he calls us great.

What We Give Our Life To

We each give our life to something, says Haddon Robinson, one of the hosts of the daily radio program Discover the Word.

He adds that we should be very careful what we give our life to.

As men who have given our lives to Jesus, we may have second thoughts and doubts from time to time, but none of us wants to go back. One thing we're sure of is that we have chosen the best thing possible to give our life to.

The question then becomes, what do we do when the world pulls us one way and our faith another?

We can pray, and that helps, but rarely do we get an instant, emphatic answer that God loves us and everything is fine. We can read the Bible and learn from people like Joseph, John the Baptist, and Paul. That encourages us too.

The bottom line, as always, comes down to trust in Jesus Christ. Is he the way, the truth and the life, as he said, or not? Did he save us from our sins because of his tremendous love for us? Is he the ultimate reality, while the world is only a shallow, passing illusion?

You know the answer to those questions. All the second thoughts you have will never change that truth. No matter how tempting the ways of the world may be, Christ is the right choice. He always has been and he always will be.

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Zavada, Jack. "Second Thoughts About Being a Christian." ThoughtCo, Oct. 4, 2016, Zavada, Jack. (2016, October 4). Second Thoughts About Being a Christian. Retrieved from Zavada, Jack. "Second Thoughts About Being a Christian." ThoughtCo. (accessed November 22, 2017).