Virgo and Aquarius: Love Compatibility

The Odd Couple

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Virgo and Aquarius are cool characters with lots of quirks. They're arguably the most particular signs of the Zodiac.

Both are matter-of-fact about themselves, though that doesn't mean there isn't much to discover over time. If there's a civilized start, and when there's other chemistry (in the birth chart), you could have a winner.

A big difference though shows up when deciding what to do together. Virgo likes to be able to cast ahead, and imagine where they'll park, how far a walk it is to the restaurant, etc. Airy Aquarians like to do things on the fly, and change plans if the winds shift.

Does Virgo get into a funk when Aquarius has a sudden urge to blow off the reservations?  Does Aquarius' erratic behavior bring out the Dark Side of Virgo?  Does the rigid perfectionism of Virgo bring out the destructively rebellious Dark Side of Aquarius?  

And here's where any trouble begins, with the Waterbearer restless to scramble the usual groove with some amazingly novel experiences. Virgo is a planner, being so sensitive to their physical environment. The nervous side of Virgo comes out when they're pushed beyond their comfort zone.

Virgo in Love is practical, observant and sensual. Aquarius in Love is experimental, rebellious and a thinker.

Attitude Toward the New

This difference in rhythm and reaction to new experiences can permeate the whole affair. That's why this pairing gets extra points for the degree of relating challenges. However, there are shades of similarity that are a starting point. As always, look at the full chart. If there's amazing love chemistry, you've probably got other factors in play.

The affair begins in the mind since both fancy themselves sharp thinkers. Each brings a refined outlook and set of opinions to the table. Both are somewhat detached emotionally and are not terribly fond of PDA. They can dispassionately cover many topics.

They find a shared interest in discussing social issues, though Aquarius comes across as looking to new solutions, and Virgo sticks with the tried and true. Both can be swept up in reforming zeal. Both try to be a force for good in the world but go about it in very different ways.

Social Presence

When dating, the Aquarian shows up, but not in the punctual way that makes Virgo feel respected. The Waterbearer is friendly in a far-reaching way, while Virgo likes to dwell in the particulars of one relationship. Virgo's uncertainty grows without more signs of sincere devotion.

The Aquarian doesn't like to be locked into commitment or routine. But these two things allow Virgo to relax, and start to reveal their deeper selves in a relationship. If the Virgo is kept on edge, and on the defense against chaotic energies, they might start pulling away. Working that out is a central theme for this couple. It helps to take time apart, and both signs have a loner side that brings balance to their togetherness.

While outwardly both appear cool and detached, the differences in temperament are many. Aquarius likes to break known taboos, and Virgo (as a rule) prefers to perfect the known. Aquarius is cool physically and likes to experiment in the bedroom. Virgo is warm and earthy but often prefers the simple and traditional over anything too kinky. Both can be inscrutable (hard to read), which can end up making the relationship a quirky one that plays out 'in their heads.' Neither wears its heart on its sleeve!

Order and Chaos

At home, Virgo could end up being the tidy and responsible one with the knitted brow.

Aquarians get lost in their own world of ideas and often let mundane responsibilities slide. With this pair, Virgo falls into the nagging role, and the criticism is aimed right at carefree Aquarius. The Waterbearer decides that Virgo is a downer that's trying to micro-manage their life. These two signs carry the signature of Order (Virgo) and Chaos (Aquarius), and the relationship can be marked by wild swings to either extreme.

When they're in harmony, Virgo's practical visions help airy Aquarius bring their dreams down to earth. Virgo's gift for discernment can help the Waterbearer hone in on a worthwhile goal, and lay out the steps. Aquarius shows Virgo the big picture​ and keeps them from following too narrow a track. This is how Aquarius draws Virgo into seeing things from a loftier perspective, if only for a moment.

Virgo's gift to Aquarius is helping them 'be in their bodies' and know the subtle joys of the senses. When Aquarius can soar, and Virgo feels that there's an anchor, this relationship, while an awkward match-up, can work.

  • Upside: erudite; drawn to minimal and clean spaces; compassionate; are champions of the most vulnerable in society; insightful; natural; quality over quantity; committed.
  • Downside: stubborn; secret lives; compartmentalizing; remote; cold; unfaithful.
  • Element and Quality Mutable Earth (Virgo) and Fixed Air (Aquarius)