5 Ways to Attract the Virgo Man

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 The Virgo Man is peculiar in that what's alluring are more likely to be character traits, than any cultural criterion of beauty or sexiness. 

To the right person, that makes him a prize that values traits like virtue, being considerate and sincere.  And if it's a love match, he'll will value You, even when you're all wrinkly, seasoned by time.

Virgo man wants a real girl (or boy), that doesn't hide behind an avatar, or false facades.

  Virgo in Love is particular and wary of attachment, until he's sure.

Virgos are process-oriented, so a trick to getting close is to be there now, in the activity of the moment.  If you're naturally someone who enjoys the journey (the process), as much as the destination, you're sure to win the Virgo man.

Here's What Virgo Finds Fetching

1.  A Less is More Philosophy

The Virgo man is notoriously deliberate, and a man of moderate appetites.  One reason for this, is his heightened sensitivity, both physical and mental.  He's attracted to those that understand the art and science of digestion.  He's appreciative of the one that takes care not to bite off more than they can chew.  In other words:

  • A thoughtfully prepared dish at a known, calm place is favored over the all-you-can-eat buffet.
  • Leaving space in the conversation gives the frantic Virgo mind a chance to settle. 

2.  A Refined Sensibility

The earth sign Virgo guy is a relentless observer, and will notice very minute changes from one day to the next.

  He prides himself on being watchful, and aware of what's happening in the physical 3D world.  The right girl (or guy) for him values this attentiveness.  If he's a good guy, you can even welcome remarks that have shades of being a critique.

  • Show off your own alertness to the beauty of the small, the everyday magic that many don't catch.  Do this by telling a story from your day or by taking extra care in preparation of a meal.
  • Be observant of his likes and dislikes, and surprise him with your thoughtfulness.
  • The receptive one (to Virgo Man) receives observations and uses them for their own self-improvement and knowledge.

3.  The Self-Assurance to Lead

Virgo is a mutable sign, and one way to grok his nature, is to realize he's all about adapting to what's happening within him and outside him.  On top of that, he's an earth sign, which is more reactive than active.  That's why he's drawn to the poise and social grace of a confident partner.  He's not looking for a boss or Master (to him playing Slave).  But he's naturally at ease, when there's a strong guiding hand in the twosome that's not him. 

  • Make suggestions for dates, and be clear about what to wear, how much it'll cost and the time frame for the evening.
  • Virgo Man likes to spring into action, to fix things, to be helpful.  So, to light his fire, ask his advice or let him tinker with your broken (fill in the blank).

4.  A Natural Beauty

A lifelong quest for Virgo Man is to be at home in his own skin.  The less artifice, the better with him.  He'll admire the one that's attuned to the power of what's natural, and a knowing about how everything is connected.  He's attracted to a healthy glow that shines from the inside out.

  He's impressed by those that live a holistic lifestyle.  And he's a fan of keeping it simple, uncluttered and habits of purification. 

  • If you want to seduce his senses, practice good personal hygiene, with a subtle overlay of natural aromas.   
  • Bring nature indoors with fresh flowers, greenery and found treasures.
  • Let his earthiness strengthen your own footing -- find balance with the earth element.

5.  A Steady Nature

The Virgo man is thrown off, when someone rushes him with breathless passion.  He's not impressed by delusions of love grandeur and escapist fantasies.  He prefers a long getting-to-know-you phase, that begins organically from his daily groove.  Familiarity does not breed contempt in his case, it warms him up slowly to intimacy. 

  • Demonstrate that your life is your work of art -- he'll want to see you in your usual habitat.
  • If it begins with friendship, you're laying the groundwork for something lasting.
  • An attraction that has the right setting to grow slowly is favored -- in a class setting, for example.
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