Win the Heart of a Cancer Woman

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Cancer gals are tough nuts to crack, and success in wooing them depends on the hardness of their outer shell. If the Cancer you have set your sights on has suffered a lot of heartbreak, winning her trust means a commitment to the long game.  

Dependent Soul

A Cancer who has become emotionally lost due to heartache or an unstable family life can flounder for years, dealing with boundary issues and falling into patterns of promiscuity. Her vulnerability does bring out the knight in shining armor in other people, and she tends to lean heavily on the loved ones in her life.  

Our YOLO culture is hard on the sensitive Cancer soul. Inside every one of these females is a potential mother and wife who longs to keep the home fires burning. Many will satisfy that instinct with pets and become cat ladies. Others will open up to that desire, especially if they meet someone that has the substance she craves.  

Also important to know if you're invited into her circle of trust is that the Cancer woman is "motherly" in all aspects, which means she treats her friends as she would family. 

First Date Ideas

The Cancer woman can seem super shy at first, even to the point of not wanting to make eye contact. Great first dates are ones where the focus is on something other than her—a movie, concert, play, sports activity. This will leave her free to tune in to how it "feels" to be with you.

Avoid obvious dating situations, and opt for mellow atmospheres that feel cloistered. It's best not to press too much for her life story, but a friendly curiosity is likely welcome.  

A Cancer in love is protective of her feelings, even defensive, unless she feels 100 percent safe. She drops hints, and expects you to read her mind and heart to know what she needs. Often Cancer Suns are in their own world, and yet sensitive to the moods of others.   

Home Security 

The Moonchild loves to nurture, and only really unwinds in the sanctity of her home. It's a good sign if she invites you over for a lovingly prepared feast.

If she feels safe, she slowly reveals more layers. But she'll mostly want to talk about you at first. She will appreciate your childhood stories and hearing about the highs and lows of your life. It's wise to avoid stories that are harsh, or show a lack of empathy. It's not something she'll soon forget. She's got a steel trap for a memory, and a photographic one as well.

Touchy at Times

As a water sign, she's known to be touchy, often even moody. If offended or hurt, she can turn to stone. She might be smiling, but the light will be gone from her eyes. That doesn't mean you're out for good, but she might need time alone to sort through her feelings. If you get the cold shoulder, give her some space and see if she comes around.

Sometimes her moods take her to dark places. If you love without judging, the waters will calm again. If you avoid playing on her insecurities, at her most vulnerable moments, the trust will grow. She's crazy, yes, at times, but that's what makes her so interesting too!

Cancer is a cardinal sign, which means she will take the lead at times, especially when something grabs her emotionally.

Loony Tunes

The Moon-ruled lady loves to laugh, and has a great sense of humor. A night of stand-up or watching a funny romantic comedy will draw out her natural nuttiness. You will win points by pointing out the absurd, or making her laugh at herself. The latter is tricky, though, and takes a skilled and compassionate humorist not to hurt those sensitive feelings.

Some Cancer women retain a childlike sense of the world, and that twinkly-eyed wonder serves them well into their elder years. But being there under all circumstances, good and bad, is key to helping her fulfill the potential of her Cancer Sun: becoming emotionally independent, while also deeply loving.