Win the Heart of a Cancer Woman

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Cancer gals are tough nuts to crack, and much depends on how hard their outer shell is. If she's had a lot of heartbreak, winning her trust means a commitment to the long game.  

Every Moonchild seems vulnerable, and brings out the knight in a man.  Some Cancer girls are dependent on guys, but don't necessarily stay true or think they're 'the One.'  A lost Cancer flounders for years, and may deal with boundary issues, and fall into patterns of promiscuity.


The YOLO culture out there, of hook ups, is hard on the sensitive Cancer soul.  Inside every Moonchild female is a potential mother and wife, who longs to keep the home fires burning.  Many will satisfy that instinct with pets, and become cat ladies.  Others will open up to that desire, especially if they meet someone that has the substance she craves.  

it's a tough road for a Cancer gal who had an unstable family life.  She likely leans heavily on friends, and then any prominent mates that come into her life.  She's 'motherly' and will treat friends as family, which is important to know if you're invited into her circle of trust.

First Dates

The Cancer woman can seem super shy at first, even to the point of not wanting to make eye contact. Great first dates are ones where the focus is on something else -- a movie, concert, play, activity. All the while, she's tuning in to how you "feel" to be with.

Avoid full frontal dating situations with Cancer, and opt for mellow atmospheres, that feel cloistered.  It's best not to press too much for her life story, but a friendly curiosity is likely welcome.  

A Cancer in love is protective, even defensive, unless she feels 100% safe.  She drops hints, and expects you to read her mind and heart, to know what she needs.

 Often Cancer Suns are in their own world, and yet sensitive to the moods of others.   

Homey Security 

The Moonchild loves to nurture, and only really unwinds in the sanctity of her home. It's a good sign if she invites you over for a lovingly prepared feast.

If she feels safe, she slowly reveals more layers. She's got a loony humor, and will appreciate your personal stories -- from childhood, and highs and lows from your life. She's got a steel trap memory, which is also photographic. It's wise to avoid stories that are harsh, or show a lack of empathy. It's not something she'll soon forget.

She's a water sign, and known to be touchy, and if offended or hurt, she can turn to stone. She might be smiling, but the light is gone from her eyes. That doesn't mean you're out for good. But she might need time alone, to be with her own private feelings. If you get the cold shoulder, give her some space and see if she comes 'round.

Loony Tunes

The Moon-ruled lady loves to laugh. A night of stand-up or watching a funny romantic comedy gets draws out her natural nuttiness. You win points by pointing out the absurd, or making her laugh at herself. The latter is tricky though, and takes a skilled and compassionate humorist not to hurt those sensitive feelings.

Cancer is a cardinal sign, and at times, she will take the lead, when something grabs her emotionally.

Sometimes her moods take her to dark places. If you love without judging, the waters will calm again. If you avoid playing on her insecurities, at her most vulnerable moments, the trust will grow. She's crazy, yes, at times, but that's what makes her so interesting too!

Some Cancer women retain a sense of the child, and that twinkly-eyed wonder serves them well into the elder years. But being there when she falls is key to helping her with a life thread of the Cancer Sun -- becoming emotionally independent, while deeply loving too.

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Hall, Molly. "Win the Heart of a Cancer Woman." ThoughtCo, Feb. 23, 2017, Hall, Molly. (2017, February 23). Win the Heart of a Cancer Woman. Retrieved from Hall, Molly. "Win the Heart of a Cancer Woman." ThoughtCo. (accessed January 20, 2018).