Winning the Libra Woman

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Venus' Own

It's no small feat to truly win the heart of the Zodiac's feminine ideal. Ruled by Venus, Libra's airy nature elevates love and romance to heights in her mind's eye that are hard for the mortal man to match. But being fair-minded, as well, she'll respond to a sincere effort of romancing by a man that she considers high-quality.

When dating, take the extra effort when choosing the location and activities, keeping in mind that the Libra lady loves beauty. The elegant French place is preferable to the all-you-can-eat buffet. If you take her to an "open seating" type events outdoors, make sure you bring a blanket for her to sit on.

She'll be repelled by vulgarity and violence, so keep that in mind when suggesting entertainment. Shows of gentlemanly behavior get you far, since she's one woman that expects it. You can never bring too many flowers, especially early on, because this shows the respect she craves.

No Sweatpants, Please

The Libra woman has style and grace, and she'll expect you to look good, too. That means being well-groomed, leaning toward the formal side of the men's dress spectrum. Don't show up in a ball cap and sweatpants, even if you're working out together. The Libra lady is notorious for going for "pretty boys," but will appreciate a man who radiates inner confidence, and takes care to look smooth. She's ultra feminine, and gets on well with her gay friends, and her straight tastes lean to the metrosexual.

Besides being a looker, the Libra woman has a clear, beautiful mind. A good date would be one where the conversation flows easily, touching on all kinds of topics. Libra loves to weigh sides of an issue from a detached perspective, so don't be shy with an opinion. Once you've experienced a debate with the Libra lady, you'll appreciate her way of synthesizing information.

It's best to think of the Libra woman as a longterm romantic possibility. She'll take time sizing you up over many, many dates. Her aloof demeanor may not show you how you're doing. It can seem like her friendliness is just free-floating, part of her nature, not necessarily directed at you. But good things come to those who wait, and if you see potential and are having fun, hang in there with it.

The Libra woman is often put on a pedestal, admired from afar like a work of art. If you treat her like a "real girl," but one that's equal to you in all ways, she'll know you're not just seeing her as a prize. You'll win her heart by showing appreciation for her intellect and high-minded values.

You get extra points if you know the best fine dining (or best on a budget) in town, and the cultural mecca. Libras like to be informed, and love to share their angle on current events. The Libra woman is looking or a partner to volley back and forth with -- in conversation and everyday life. Your ability to create a harmonious low with her is key, and might come down to something beyond your control -- chemistry. If the ease of conversational exchange isn't there, it's hard to find it in other areas, like the bedroom.

Despite being a natural for partnership, she's liable to surprise you by holding to her own unique vision of what that should look like. You'll win the Libra lady when you've got it going on yourself, and enhance her life by what you've got to offer.